• Feb28

    “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”- Proverbs 17:17 ESV

    “Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joy, and dividing our grief.” – Cicero

    We are made for relationship. As Rick Warren has always said (and I agree), we are truly better together! If you haven’t gotten any time with close friends lately, I recommend you do so. God has given us the body of Christ for our joy, sustainment, and growth into Christlikeness. So, make time this week for friendship!

    In Christ,






  • Feb20

    “Cause me to hear Your lovingkindness in the morning, for in You do I trust” – Psalm 143:8. NKJV

    Making marriage work is like operating a farm. You have to start all over in the morning.

    Maybe today you need to be reminded of the Lord’s lovingkindness as it relates to your marriage. God knows that both you and your spouse are imperfect. You both sin, and you both need grace. Praise the Lord that His tender mercies are new every morning (Lamentations 3:22-23) and that through the Presence and power of the Holy Spirit, you are enabled to forgive, start fresh, and sacrificially serve one another.

    This week you might consider reciting Psalm 143:8 with you spouse each morning as you surrender the day together on your knees.

    In Jesus,



  • Feb19

    “And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.” – Mark 11:25 NIV

     Forgiveness means giving up your right to punish another.

    Here are a few truisms about forgiveness:

    • Forgiveness is not forgetting.
    • Forgiveness is a choice.
    • Forgiveness is agreeing to live with the consequences of another person’s sin.
    • Forgiveness is choosing not to hold someone’s sin against him or her any more.
    • Don’t wait until you feel like forgiving.
    • Forgive for your sake, so you can be free.
    • The ultimate reason to forgive is because Christ forgave you.
    • If you have a difficult time forgiving someone Christ has forgiven, then repent and turn to Christ for the power to forgive.
    • If you refuse to forgive you will not experience the forgiveness of God “But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins” – Matthew 6:15 NIV
    • Forgiveness means giving up your right to punish another.

    Circle two of the above that you need to work on in your life. Trust God for the power to follow through. 

    In Christ,



  • Feb18

    “[Love] takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].”- 1 Corinthians 13:5 AMP

    Love is giving more and never keeping score.

    Over the years, I have walked with many families through the sin of failed relationships when one person sins or violates their marriage vows. I have equally seen the negative effects which occur when one party refuses to forgive after there true repentance has been demonstrated.  The sin of un-forgiveness becomes a greater destruction to the whole family. Perhaps this is one of the reasons the Apostle Paul exhorts the Corinthians to forgive the man that sinned and accept him back into the fellowship and extend him forgiveness (See 1 Corinthians 5:1-5 & also 2 Corinthians 2:5-11). Clearly when we do not forgive someone, we become vulnerable to the schemes of the devil (2 Corinthians 2:11).

    In Hope of Forgiveness,



  • Feb16


    3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s [sexual needs]. 4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” – 1 Corinthians 7:3 NLT

    “The typical wife doesn’t understand her husband’s deep need for sex anymore than the typical husband understands his wife’s deep need for affection.” His Needs, Her Needs, p.43

    The passage in 1 Corinthians 7: 3-5 is one of the most overlooked passages about marriage in the American Church. The one need a man CANNOT legitimately and morally have met outside of marriage is physical intimacy. Behind the closed doors of the home I have discovered from many years of pastoring that Christian women neglect their husbands sexually or put them on a minimal diet. Obviously their needs to be mutual understanding between the husband and wife, but notice that the passage is strong for it says that that each of them have a “duty” to fulfill each other’s needs. “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband” – 1 Cor. 7:3 NIV

    When a wife refuses to give sexual pleasure to her husband she is setting him up for an affair, pornography, and other sexual temptations. Of course, the man is wrong if he commits such immoral actions but many times he will “burn with passion” – 1 Corinthians 7:9, because his wife either refuses, makes excuses, or is simply indifferent to this strong driving need. To be honest I get so disturbed by Christian women that give excuses of why they cannot provide sexual intimacy for their husbands. 

     Over the years I have men tell me how extremely difficult this is for them and they even wonder why God created them with such strong sexual desires when they cannot be met legitimately with their Christian wife.

    So, wives it is time to “fulfill your duty” and satisfy your husband. Stop making excuses; determine before the LORD God that you will intentionally meet his need. Be creative in your love making, release a few inhabitations, live “among the wildflowers” as the Shulammite woman said. 

    The Shulammite woman is speaking, “ Come, my love, let us go out to the fields and spend the night among the wildflowers [lodge in the villages KJV]. 12 Let us get up early and go to the vineyard … There I will give you my love” –  Song of Songs 7:11-12 (NLT).

    The Song of Solomon is not a picture of Jesus loving us; it is a graphic story of rapturous physical, emotional intimacy between a husband and wife. Enjoy the ride!

    In Christ,